Key to Social Relationships
Venus is the key to the individual’s financial, romantic, artistic, musical, and social activities. Venus in a birth chart signifies the way in which you form close relationships with others. It can also indicate which kind of woman you are attracted to.
Venus, the goddess of love, represents female relationships and social interactions at every level. She rules our social attitudes and behaviour, along with our aesthetic tastes and artistic inclinations. Venus, queen of taste and of the arts, represents the principles of harmony, justice and equilibrium.
Venus shows where our values lie and how we set our priorities. She governs our desires. Her placement in the horoscope describes our inclinations with regard to romance, marriage and other partnerships, our capacity for humour and the pursuit of pleasure in all its forms.
Known as the Morning Star and also as the Evening Star, Venus, the second planet from the Sun, is pretty much a sister planet to the Earth, although the Shining Planet currently has no moon. Brighter than any star in the sky, Venus is almost the same size as Earth, though scientists tell us the planet is somewhat less dense and has a day that lasts more than a year! Curiously, the Sun rises in the West and sets in the East on Venus, due to her unusual retrograde rotation. The Love Goddess spends around four weeks on average in each sign, taking a little under one year to complete her journey through all twelve signs. Venus turns retrograde only once every eighteen months, for around 42 days, being stationary for some 11 days.
From a romantic point of view, Venus in a man’s chart shows the kinds of women he desires instinctively, whilst the placement of Venus in a woman’s chart indicates the ways in which she is likely to present herself in order to attract the interest of romantic partners.
Venus also rules desire in all its forms. The word “venereal” refers to diseases of Venus. So she is strongly focused on sexual interactions, but since she can be rather avaricious, Venus also governs the flow of money and the financial conditions in our lives, so the word “venal” expresses the grasping side of Venus.
Venus is the traditional planetary ruler of Libra (relationships; harmony), her Day Sign, and Taurus (security; material pleasures), her Night Sign. Venus is exalted in Pisces (sensitivity; self-sacrifice). People with these signs prominent in their charts are said to be ruled by Venus.
In ancient mythology, Venus, the beautiful love goddess, was always getting up to something with Mars, the fierce god of war. None of the other gods could ever work out what the lovely Venus saw in the headstrong, arrogant Mars, but she certainly fancied him, no matter what anyone else said or thought.
Venus in Signs
Venus in Aries
Venus in Aries people flirt by being up-front, direct, and even daring. They try to win you over by expressing how enterprising and independent they are. Their style of expressing love can be maddeningly “me”-centered, but the right person for them will find this approach charming. People get turned on by Venus in Aries’ aura of innocent charm, even when they are being childish and impatient.
Venus in Aries men and women behave in a childlike, fun-loving manner in love. They are turned on by energy and activity. Turn-offs include a relationship that is considered stuffy or too “mature”, vagueness, and beating around the bush. In love, Venus in Aries people are hopelessly addicted to the conquest. In order for a relationship to remain fresh and new for them, they require plenty of stimulation.
Pleasing Venus in Aries involves fuelling their need for action. Be direct, open, and honest with them — they won’t much like game-playing or evasiveness, unless it is in the complete spirit of fun. Feed their need for spontaneity, and appreciate their playfulness. Understand their desire for the relationship to remain young and fresh. Aries likes to take the lead in love (even if their Sun Sign is gentle Pisces) — let them, at least most of the time. Indulge them their many whims, and understand that they thrive on competition, even when they’re competing with you!
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Venus in Aries people don’t necessarily take control but they do instinctively take the lead in matters of the heart. They don’t easily adapt to others’ feelings and moods.
Can be demanding in love, addicted to the chase or the intense passions of the moment. Loves spontaneous expressions of affection and sexuality. Very enthusiastic and attractive. Innocent charm. Attracts by being direct and not beating around the bush – gets to the point. Hard to resist. Quick attractions.
With money, Venus in Aries may be impulse buyers. They are attracted to new and innovative products, but would do well to wait a few days before buying because the desire can pass quite quickly. Art that appeals to them is bold and active in tone.
Venus in Taurus
Love for Venus in Taurus centers on the physical world and creature comforts — they revel in sensual surroundings. These people project themselves as solid and comfortable. In fact, something about their manner promises they will be satisfying lovers and partners. They need a certain measure of predictability and dependability in their relationships, even if their Sun is in the more spontaneous signs of Aries or Gemini.
Venus in Taurus men and women can be possessive in love, and they are threatened by fast-paced, high-energy situations in the context of relationships and love. These are sensual partners who require lots of “hands-on” expressions of love. Their lovers may complain that Venus in Taurus can get a little too comfortable and settled. It’s true that they resist change in their relationships, but even when they seem stuck in a groove, you can always reassure yourself by remembering that they are constant partners.
Pleasing Venus in Taurus involves emphasizing your loyalty, and their worth to you. You may need to give in to them in love matters, because they won’t readily give in to you! Get physical with them; do comfortable things. Avoid pushing them in love — give them plenty of time. You will probably need to cultivate patience if you are in a relationship with Venus in Taurus. Remember to be simple and natural — Taurus will appreciate it. Promise them a comfortable, cozy time.
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Venus in Taurus people are very physical lovers, with a great appreciation for scents, sounds, feels, and pleasing form. Can be very patient in love. Their charm is natural and earthy.
They can be possessive in love and with objects. Venus in Taurus people are attracted to products of high quality and durability. They can be good with their money, spending lavishly only on objects of beauty, long-lasting objects, and food. They are not usually especially generous people and are typically quite practical and patient when it comes to saving and spending money. Harmony and peace are important factors in the art and music they are attracted to. They abhor gawdy, cheap, tacky, or excessively loud/bold art, clothing, and possessions.
Venus in Gemini
Venus in Gemini people will try to win over the object of their affection with witty conversation, displaying just how much they “know”, and demonstrating their diverse interests. These lovers are playful — some might even call them a tease. They are hard to pin down, and they resist relationships that promise to become too “comfortable”. Even those with their Sun in Taurus or Cancer, whose outward demeanor may suggest some reserve and caution, will want their relationships to be stimulating and full of conversation with Venus in Gemini.
Venus in Gemini men and women don’t want to be tied or bogged down in their relationships. They appreciate lightheartedness in love. Although they are willing to talk (perhaps endlessly) about the relationship, you may get the feeling that they gloss over some of the deeper issues. In love, their tastes change often, and it can be hard to know what to expect from one day to the next (or, sometimes, from one hour to the next!).
Pleasing Venus in Gemini involves supporting their need for fun and variety, showing interest in their brainpower and knowledge, and giving them space for friends and activities outside of the relationship. Let them know just how much fun you have with them. Try not to get overly miffed by Venus in Gemini’s changeable, fickle ways. Remember that time spent with your lover will be exciting and invigorating.
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Venus in Gemini sometimes get involved in relationships solely out of curiosity. They are intellectually curious about people, and are eternally fascinated by social interactions. Although they usually enjoy flirting, they may remain somewhat aloof when it comes to matters of the heart.
Curiosity motivates them on romantic and social levels. “Variety is the spice of life” is their attitude in love, in social relationships, and with personal possessions. They are sociable, communicative, and interested. They can be animated and fun but may also keep their distance on an emotional level. Attractions often begin with words, as they tend to bond more readily on a mental level. The shadow side of Venus in Gemini is fickleness.
Venus in Gemini people spend money on books, information, social events. They are somewhat fickle when it comes to their attachment to objects and personal possessions, and they seek variety in the things that they own. Some enjoy the thought that can go behind making purchases, weighing various options. They are attracted to art that is expressive, verbal and social in tone, light, and happy.
Venus in Cancer
Love for Venus in Cancer is best when it is committed and rather predictable. These people are sensitive in love, even if their Sun sign is the more playful and outgoing signs of Gemini or Leo. You may even say their egos are a little underdeveloped when it comes to love, but they have a lot to give in return: namely, security, comfort, and care.
Venus in Cancer men and women show their love by caring for you. They pay more attention to your feelings than your words, and observe you rather carefully. They want a safe, solid relationship. They can be a little moody in love, and some go so far as giving silent treatments and engaging in pouting routines to get attention from their mate. They are turned off by anything impersonal, and too much rationalizing leaves them cold. They are not afraid of emotional confrontations (even if they have a Gemini Sun and appear flighty in other areas of life). Still, these lovers are always worried they’ll be left high and dry. If you’ve hurt them, they’ll have a hard time forgetting. Every so often, they’ll retreat into themselves (not unlike a Crab), and it can be difficult to pull them out. This is when they use their extraordinary “nursing” abilities on themselves, instead of you…and you simply don’t want that!
Pleasing Venus in Cancer involves lots of snuggling and sentimentality. Recognize their attachments to their family and home. Help them to feel confident with you — when they are fearful of being rejected, they can resort to some frustrating tactics to find out just how loved they are. Think about how a crab (the symbol of Cancer) moves towards its goal, and you will get a fair idea of Venus in Cancer’s approach. Do your best to make them feel secure and cared for, and you will be rewarded with a patient, dependable, and loving mate.
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Venus in Cancer people are sensitive, sentimental, and caring. They can be possessive and clannish. They will generally bend over backwards for someone they love, but might keep too much to themselves and eventually feel resentful if affection is not returned in a similar manner. Venus in Cancer people are nurturing, protective and self-protective, cautious, and fertile. They may experience many emotional ups and downs in love due to sensitivity and impressionability. They are tender, romantic, and attached. Cancer love is dedicated, warm, and devoted. They show their love through devotion, care, and concern. They are affectionate and cuddly, and are at their best when they feel safe and secure.
Too much attachment to the past can prevent Venus in Cancer people from enjoying the moment. In fact, the past may be glorified with Venus in Cancer to the point that the present is not appreciated, even though it will one day be the past!
Venus in Cancer people generally save for a rainy day and can be quite frugal with their money. They will spend the most on their family and close friends, as well as on building their homes. They are attracted to art that is traditional, homey, and romantic.
Venus in Leo
When Venus in Leo people are in love, they are proud, even boastful. This position of Venus can turn humble Virgo Suns or retiring Cancer Suns into somewhat demanding lovers. Venus in Leo loves to court and be courted, and they need to feel very special. They are warm, generous, and even grand. Though really quite loyal to their partners (remember that love is THE most important thing in Leo’s life), they thrive on attention from the opposite sex. Be prepared for their displays: they will tell you about any advances made on them. Remember, they’re just showing off to you, and it’s likely harmless. It’s a different story if you do the same, however. That’s when you’ll hear the lion roar…and, no doubt, you’ll want to keep these cats purring. Venus in Leo wants to appear experienced in love, even if they have little or no experience whatsoever!
Venus in Leo men and women have high expectations, but once you know that these expectations revolve only around how much attention you are giving them, you’ll see that they are really quite big-hearted about most everything else. They are threatened by a relationship that appears to have settled too much, or one that’s lost its spark. They are also threatened by indifferent or impersonal behaviour on your part.
Although their needs for physical expression through sex are generally quite strong, their need for love is perhaps even stronger. It is hard for Venus in Leo people to separate love and sex, and even their most erotic fantasies are infused with love and affection. For this reason, few Venus in Leo folk would last long in a relationship that is mostly sexual. On the flip side, they may last longer in a love-only relationship in the absence of satisfying sex, but they are unlikely to feel very satisfied.
Pleasing Venus in Leo involves paying loads of attention to them. If you’re willing to make only one adjustment in your ways, it should be to remind Leo how wonderful they are. Respect and appreciate them, always. Put up with their childlike moments and their tall tales. They want to be seen as attractive by you, so avoid (at all costs!) putting them down in this area. They actually lose interest when they perceive the slightest loss of interest in their partner, and you can expect that any letdown will be acted out in a dramatic fashion. Remind them, in a gentle way, that your emotions count too. If you are feeling a little jealous, let them know. Remember, to Venus in Leo, your small jealousies are affirmations that you find them attractive and expect the rest of the world to as well. Let them decide where to go on a date, and let them pay too. When Venus in Leo feels loved and appreciated, they reward you with loyalty, a big sense of fun, and plenty of physical expressions of their love.
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Love is magnificent and grand to Venus in Leo people. They take pride in love and their love relationships, and they are typically generous with their money. This is a warmhearted, teasing, expressive, proud, and extravagant placement for Venus. Love is a bit of a game–a game that is perpetual, as Venus in Leo is forever stuck in the romance stage of a relationship. They feed on attention, acknowledgement, validation, and adoration. Venus in Leo loves to be adored, pampered, and admired. They have a strong ego investment in their love lives. The negative expression of this placement is overstating of feelings simply for the effect, as well as extravagance.
Venus in Leo people may spend a lot on entertainment or sometimes just to show off! They generally are big tippers and give special and generous gifts. They are attracted to art, furnishings, clothing, and music that is bold and passionate, renaissance, lush or opulent, lavishly comfortable, and romantic.
Venus in Virgo
Venus in Virgo people are not the flirtatious sort. Instead, their appeal lies in their dedication, their willingness to work on the relationship, and to make the relationship work in real terms. Unlike Venus in Leo, they won’t try to impress you with grand gifts or promises. Their gifts are less showy, but perhaps far more generous — gifts of devotion and attention to details about you.
Venus in Virgo men and women quietly (and often slowly) make their way into your heart. They are quite sensitive in love — even insecure — and this reserved, loner-like quality is part of their appeal. They prefer to play it safe in their relationships, and they need to be confident that you like them before they make a move. They are great listeners and they make it a habit to observe and learn all of your ins and outs. Their love can be of the Kindergarten variety — they show they care by nagging or criticizing. Remember, though, that they are not trying to hurt you when they are pointing out the flaws in your thinking, plans, or even character. They truly are trying to help! Venus in Virgo is attracted to nondescript people who have largely gone unnoticed. Show-offs and know-it-alls turn them off.
Pleasing Venus in Virgo involves showing you appreciate them for all the little things they do — and they do a lot. The problem is, they do these things so quietly that you may not always notice or credit them for all these kind gestures. They do need some space (after all, they’re generally quite busy making everything work), so give it to them. Be genuine, not ostentatious. They are really not difficult to please after you have taken care of these basic needs. Avoid pushing your friends or family on them too fast — remember they are a little shy. They aim to please, and are easily intimidated by your experiences. Let them know how much you value them, and they will reward you with devotion and a charming willingness to talk things out.
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Venus in Virgo people express their love through practical means and gestures–running errands, doing detail work, or just being there for their lovers. Love needs to make sense and have a purpose with Venus in Virgo. Virgo is an Earth sign, which is sensual but also quite practical. What they buy and the types of entertainment they enjoy are ruled by whether or not things make sense. They could easily feel guilty if they are too self-indulgent. Rendering services to others can fill a need, and can be an expression of love. The shadow side of this position is being overly critical of partners, picky, or worrisome. They might over-analyze their lovers, their lovers’ reactions and words chosen, and their love lives in general.
Venus in Virgo people often spend their money with care, and usually on practical items instead of frivolous ones.
Venus in Libra
Venus in Libra people will try to impress you with their kindness, even-handedness, and willingness to make your relationship work. They have a polished manner in love, which sometimes makes them appear insincere or superficial. They are gentle lovers who hate to be offended. They are threatened by bad manners and direct or abrasive expression of feelings. They not only prefer to choose the middle road, they seek the middle ground in their relationships. You can expect to be treated fairly, and you may be turned on by Venus in Libra’s willingness to concede and adjust their lives to fully accommodate you.
Venus in Libra men and women have idealized images of their relationships, even to the point where the relationship becomes bigger than life, taking on a life of its own. They can become quietly resentful if they feel they are being taken advantage of — and they make it easy for more aggressive types to bully them around.
Pleasing Venus in Libra involves treating them kindly and fairly. They love to share everything with you, so let them. Foreplay for them can be mental — they love to communicate with you about the relationship. Sharing turns them on, and tactless or uncouth behaviour is a turn-off. Although they seem to put up with a lot, be fair with them. Over time, imbalance in their relationship is sure to make them unhappy, and when it comes to this, they may try to even the score in subtle, roundabout ways. Don’t let it come to that, and you will be rewarded with a lover who puts themselves in your shoes and treats you exactly how they would like to be treated.
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Venus in Libra people tend to employ charm rather than aggressive behaviour in order to get what they want. Although Venus in Libra people virtually live for relationships, there can be an air of cool detachment to their demeanour. They are very obliging with others–quite willing to negotiate and compromise.
Venus in Libra people can be especially idealistic about love. They prefer things be done the “right” way, and are turned off by aggressive or uncouth behaviour. The shadow side of this position is dependency, inconsistency, and superficiality. In an attempt to avoid unpleasant situations, they could easily gloss over deeper issues at play in their relationships. It’s probably best to avoid the trap of acquiescing to their partners but privately resenting the fact or thinking themselves martyrs for doing so! They can be quite artistically inclined. They tend to seek balance in their personal environment, and can be quite picky or choosy when it comes to aesthetics–balanced, harmonious, classical art is preferred. They abhor gawdy, tacky, or overly “noisy” art, clothing, furnishings, and music.
Venus in Scorpio
Venus in Scorpio people attract others with their intensity and willingness to commit. They have a strong and concentrated manner which suggests their feelings run deep. Their actions in love tend to promise deep commitment and sexual pleasure, even if they are not telling you this directly. Their appeal lies in their focus on you, and their dedication. Venus in Scorpio seems fearless when it comes to intimacy. Potential lovers get the feeling that Venus in Scorpio will never stray, that they are intensely loyal to the one they love. They possess you, and somehow make it seem attractive to be possessed.
Venus in Scorpio men and women give you their complete attention. These people are very focused on their partners. Depending on your personality, you may find this unnerving or entirely flattering. They have a strong need to control their partner, although this won’t be immediately apparent, and they may not ever admit to this. Their body-and-soul love and commitment can be so intense that it eclipses fun and makes loving them a very heavy experience. Their emotion and intensity may seem overdone to those looking for a more lighthearted relationship. These people take things to extremes, and can be very provocative. Although they want to explore all of your nooks and crannies, they won’t always be forthcoming with their own. When you’ve upset these lovers, you’ll know it. Depending on the moment, Venus in Scorpio will shoot you one of the most piercing glares around, or totally blow up. Whichever style they choose, a slighted Scorpio lover is not a pretty sight. These people can be jealous of all of your attachments, but few will admit it. They’re not afraid of being underhanded in matters of the heart, and they are experts at cutting through all the fluff and seeing you for what you are. Still, you may find their conclusions about you seem skewed and mistrustful.
Pleasing Venus in Scorpio involves demonstrating your complete commitment and loyalty to them. Appreciate their guts when it comes to love and intimacy — they’re proud of their courage in these matters. If you can, and they’re deserving, relinquish some of the control in the relationship. Let them feel they own you, without taking it to extremes. Remember, though, that some Venus in Scorpio lovers can and will take advantage of you on a subtle level, if only to keep you all to themselves. Let them have their secrets and their silences.
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Deeply passionate relations are desired with Venus in Scorpio. Superficial flirtations and contacts do not satisfy, as they yearn for “body and soul” contact with someone special–contact that breaks the taboos, that is extreme and intense, and that is unforgettable. This is a highly emotional position for Venus. It is a passionate, sensual, and intense energy. Their relationships are immensely important to them, and they may even feel that relationships consume them. In fact, they tend to want to be consumed by them! Although the basic drive is toward intense closeness, blind faith in their partners is extremely hard. Fears of being too vulnerable or of giving up their own power to others is strong. Scorpio is an “all or nothing” energy, and relationships tend to be somewhat of a rollercoaster ride as a result. Disdain for mediocrity and superficiality can compel them to create crises in order to feel alive and vital.
They can be hard to figure out or to get close to because they can go from one extreme of emotion to the next quite quickly. They sometimes appear very sensitive and yielding, and other times completely closed off, for example.
Their tastes in art, clothing, furnishings, and music tend to be dark, surreal, gothic, passionate. Most of their true character lies beneath the surface, and what they choose to put on display may even be deceptive. Fashion trends mean little to them.
Venus in Sagittarius
When Venus in Sagittarius people are in love, they need to feel they can grow and expand their horizons through their relationship. They want to learn new things, and experience everything together. These are idealistic lovers who want you to appreciate their beliefs, visions, and ideals. They can be a confusing mix of the lighthearted and serious. They are roamers and seekers, and don’t commit in their relationships as easily as others.
Venus in Sagittarius men and women turn others on with their big smiles and laughs, their jokes, their grand schemes, their dreams, and their friendly, flirtatious behaviour. They pride themselves on their open minds, but you may notice they can be judgmental too. They are threatened by inhibitions on the part of their lover, dullness, and emotional overkill. They are restless, and won’t put up with lovers who dwell on any one thing. When the going gets tough in their relationship, they have an overwhelming need to run away. Usually this only means getting out and experiencing something new before they come back, but sometimes it can be for good. They are attracted to people in love with life. You don’t need to be refined, polished, or graceful to win their favour.
Pleasing Venus in Sagittarius involves allowing them lots of room in the relationship to grow. Avoid getting stuck in a rut, and understand their need to move on. Learn to laugh, but take their rants and raves seriously. Avoid criticizing their beliefs, join them in debates, and philosophize along with them. When they feel the need for more experience, join them! Learn to look past their clumsiness with you and your feelings, and avoid cornering them or forcing them to commit.
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Romantic adventures, as well as a straightforward–even blunt–approach to love, are themes with Venus in Sagittarius. Truth and higher meaning are things that take priority with Sagittarius. There can be some inconstancy and possibly a tendency to escape or flee when love is too complex, intricate, or needy.
They are usually sincere, upright, and straightforward about what they want. They enjoy getting to know a lover on a philosophical level, exchanging ideas, and experiencing things together.
Venus in Sagittarius people are not always especially attached to personal possessions. They are not known to be especially frugal, although some of them equate money with freedom, and will gladly put money aside for travel.
Venus in Capricorn
Venus in Capricorn people will try to win your heart by displaying self-control, presence of mind, and responsible behaviour. These lovers want you to know they are goal-oriented, witty, savvy, and controlled. Nobody can get the best of them. They want you to see just how competent they are. They like some measure of predictability in their relationships as they are cautious in love.
Venus in Capricorn men and women project an aura of competency and their loner-like behaviour can be attractive, in a cool way. They don’t go gaa-gaa over love, or at least they don’t express as much. Their lovers may complain that Venus in Capricorns are a little too practical and deliberate. Certainly, they can come across as lacking in warmth and spontaneity. Truth is, they can be rather romantic souls who yearn for a partner to share their lives with. Others’ image of their relationship matters to them. They are conservative and willing to commit. Venus in Capricorn people are attracted to serious, goal-oriented lovers. They are a little shy in matters of the heart, but they don’t want you to know it. If you like knowing where your relationship is headed, you’ll be mighty pleased with Venus in Capricorn. These people plan ahead in love, and, unlike Venus in Pisces, they will let you know exactly where they (and the relationship) are headed.
Pleasing Venus in Capricorn involves showing them you are practical and realistic. They want to impress you with the things they do. Appreciate their “saving for a rainy day” attitude, and be aware that they want to show you off in a quiet way.
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Venus in Capricorn people are generally serious about their finances. They are talented at creating artistic structure and form. They value enduring connections, reliability, and faithfulness in their love and social relationships. They take expressing their feelings seriously, and they definitely take their time to warm up to others. They generally keep their “cool” in relationships. Some may want to be financially stable before marrying, as this is an expression of their commitment. However, they fear instability, and they usually have a deep fear of rejection and of not measuring up, which can also be a motivator behind a strong drive to provide for a partner. Living up to others’ expectations can also be a problem for some, and can prevent them from truly appreciating the moment.
While not the most spontaneous of partners, they are generally quite constant and true in love. They instinctively value effort and the long-term, and won’t run away from responsibility or difficulties. This is largely because their visions of love are not especially idealistic, and they accept realistic and practical concerns as a healthy part of any love relationship.
With money, Venus in Capricorn people are generally frugal and often save for a rainy day (they worry about stability and the future). They are rather discriminating in taste when it comes to entertainment, art, furnishings, music, and clothing. They are attracted to high quality, high status, and professional objects of art, furnishing, and clothing.
Venus in Aquarius
Venus in Aquarius people try to impress you with their open-minded, future-thinking spirit. They want you to see them as unique, rebellious, and a little provocative. They are attractive when they are acting a little aloof. They want you to acknowledge and appreciate that they don’t follow the beaten track in matters of the heart.
Venus in Aquarius men and women are attracted to unusual or unconventional relationships. They don’t want to follow all the rules, although they may make quite a few of their own. They can appear quite standoffish at times, and are threatened by restrictions of any kind. Emotional types may be put off by their detached manner in love. Venus in Aquarius wants you to love them for their intellect, and to admire their visions. They value lovers who are also good friends, and they avoid emotional displays or confrontations like the plague. Venus in Aquarius will delight in shocking you with their unusual ways and their forward-looking thinking.
Pleasing Venus in Aquarius involves letting them know just how interesting they are. Put up with their occasional need to act superior on an intellectual level — they are very proud of their unique ideas and visions. Dream along with them, and don’t fence them in. They need space and will happily return the favour, giving you lots of room to breathe and to be yourself.
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Venus in Aquarius people are attracted to unconventionality, independence, and freedom as themes in their social relationships. Experimental relationships are intriguing to them. Being friends as well as lovers is important to Venus in Aquarius.
They like to choose their terms when involved in a relationship, and this can be challenging for a partner, as their terms can be changeable! They may be reacting to a condition or situation of the moment, for example. With the exception of this quality, Venus in Aquarius people are some of the most unselfish people in love. They allow you freedom to be yourself, and are rarely clinging or controlling. They are easygoing in this manner because a partner can appeal to their sense of reason, and they always strive to be exceptionally fair and impartial. They are often attracted to art, furnishings, clothing, and music from ancient times as well as modern, abstract, and futuristic.
Venus in Pisces
Venus in Pisces people project themselves as dreamy, soft-hearted partners. Everything about the way they flirt promises a lovely time. Theirs is an elusive charm — they are sweetly playful, a little moody, and perhaps a little irregular. They appreciate romance and poetry, and they prefer to “feel out” both you and the relationship you share, so don’t expect too much planning ahead. Their sensitivity can be a little misleading at times. Yes, they are sensitive folk, but lovers may find it maddening that this sensitivity is not only directed at them, but towards all of mankind.
Venus in Pisces men and women want you to know that their love is unconditional. They are unimpressed by your status, and love and accept you for all that you are inside. They love the underdog and are attracted to wayward folks, or those in need of a little help. With their romantic view of the world, they can be unreasonably attracted to states of suffering and martyrdom, so they easily get into the role of saving someone, or being saved. Unlike Venus in Libra, which thrives on equality, Venus in Pisces is actually turned on by inequality! They can be rather confusing and hard to pin down as they feel their way through their relationships. As much as they may want to, they find it hard to commit. Many do end up committing, however, at least on the surface.
Pleasing Venus in Pisces involves enjoying tender moments and romantic times with them. You won’t always be able to count on them. In fact, you can be sure they will stretch the truth every once in a while. But remember they do this because they fear they might hurt you, and they can’t bear to cause you any heartache. Try to understand them, although that’s never an easy task considering the fact that they don’t always know themselves. And, truth is, some Venus in Pisces privately have a love affair going with the idea of being misunderstood. Try to put up with their apparent lack of direction in the relationship — they are so receptive and open to all possibilities that it is hard for them to commit to any one thing, idea, or even person. These intriguing partners will reward you with a love that is accepting and comes as close to unconditional as humans can get.
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Pisces never sees the world in black-and-white terms. Rather, Pisces sees all the colours of the rainbow. With the goddess of love in Pisces, love is all-embracing, they are able to forgive and understand, they are seducible and seductive, and they show tremendous compassion to their partners. Venus in Pisces is tender and affectionate, although hard to reach nevertheless, as there is a longing for something that is hard to define and hard to satisfy. Borders and boundaries blur under Venus in Pisces. The shadow side of this position is allowing themselves to be victimized or deluded, as well as evasiveness.
Venus in Pisces people are attracted to situations of giving, martyrdom, and mercy. They want very much to forgive, allow, and give unselfishly. Because this is not always possible — they are only human after all! — there can be problems with seeing a lover or a relationship accurately and with resentments for being put upon or used.
In love, Venus in Pisces gives a lot, but not everything. Most important to remember is this: it’s a mistake to assume a Venus in Pisces person is weak, but it’s also a mistake to assume Pisces is strong. They are both. The message is: don’t push them beyond their limits, because although it might appear that they have none, they do draw the line at some point. Avoid taking advantage of their good nature and willingness to make sacrifices. They see their willingness to forgive and understand as a strength, and you should too.
Venus in Houses
Venus in 1st House
You are a likeable, magnetic, attractive, and charming person whose heart is often on your sleeve. Unless Venus is very challenged, you are easy to befriend, diplomatic, and warm in self-expression. You tend to attract others to you quite readily, and rarely come on too strong or aggressively. Negative expressions of this position include a superficial charm, a tendency to “play dumb” when challenged or in doubt, and two-faced, passive-aggressive behaviour. The need to be liked by others, and/or to keep the peace, might lead to feelings of resentment or general unrest if you feel that you give up your own power to others. You might find it difficult to make solid decisions. Your personal sense of style and manner are things that others find fascinating, and you generally pay great attention to how these things benefit you in life.
!With your natural charm and magnetic personality, you have a way of winning people over to your arguments. You are probably physically attractive and will maintain this quality well into your later years. You have a deep appreciation for art and enjoy surrounding yourself with beautiful objects. Your love life is very important to you, and you feel a lack if you have no partner in your life. Your appetite for life and for love is hefty, and you enjoy taking the initiative once you are comfortable with a partner. You are ever so charming and attractive, and absolutely hard to miss, no matter what you look like. Your head and face are your most attractive features! This is because your Venus is in the first house of Aries, a sign that rules this part of the body.
Venus in 2nd House
Tangible expressions of love and affection are important to you. Your tastes are usually “simply extravagant”, well-defined, strong, and something you are proud of. Some might feel you have a talent for finding items of value and good taste. You are attracted to items of quality. You may use generosity for your own benefit–in other words, you might give gifts with expectation of reward. Some of you might be hedonistic and overly attached to winning admiration from a partner, at the expense of discovering true love. Your neck and upper chest are erogenous zones, and your voice is unusually attractive. You generally don’t jump into a new relationship. If you do, your feelings grow gradually. A partner who makes you feel safe and secure is ideal for you. Once committed, your love is long lasting and sincere. You have strong values and others will find it hard to sway you in this area. Sensual, the world of touch and smell is most appealing to you. Complex or mysterious partners are not as intriguing to you as simple and genuine ones.
Venus in 3rd House
You are verbally expressive, diplomatic, and aim to be tactful. You easily win others over with your words, whether it’s because of a likeable facility with language, a beautiful voice, or a diplomatic use of words. You readily give out compliments. Some of you might use flattery to your own benefit at the risk of being in-genuine. You are generally a very good mediator, aiming to settle arguments quickly and restoring at least temporary peace. You have a mischievous side, however, and your desire to be tactful and polite with others doesn’t always succeed. Some of you might engage in a lot of mind games, and others might eventually find out that you don’t always mean what you say or say what you mean! You value mental stimulation and frequent changes of scenery in your love relationships.
Venus in 4th House
You seek balance, beauty, harmony, and peace in your home and domestic life. You might be especially attracted to luxury or quality/comfort items in the home, and you likely have an eye for interior decorating. There is a loving, personal touch to the way you decorate your home. Your love is decidedly sentimental, and you show your affection through nurturing and displays of sympathy. You don’t give your heart out easily, but when you do, you do it with great emotion. It’s very easy for you to become attached to a partner, and possibly smothering or overly dependent if you are not careful. Your parents’ marriage affects your own partnering skills and style more than most. A parent may be especially charming, beautiful, or otherwise Venusian. On the negative side, this parent may have been especially indulgent or overprotective with you.
Venus in 5th House
Interest in romantic connections may have started young. Playful, sensual, and amorous, you are in love with love! You thrive on romantic attention, and it is easy and natural for you to always have a crush or romantic interest. There is a romantic, playful side to you that is unmistakable. It keeps you young at heart! You are sensuous and enjoy indulging in the pleasurable senses to the fullest possible extent. You enjoy surrounding yourself with beautiful art and music, and these may play a role in your ideal date scenario. There is a touch of the dramatic in you when it comes to love and sex. You are generally quite loyal to your partner, and you are both charming and easily charmed. It’s also easy to turn your head. You are a warm, fun and playful date.
Venus in 6th House
Your expressions of love and affection are practical and helpful. Being of service to a partner is especially important to you. In fact, you might go to great lengths to be available at all costs to a loved one. While you may not be flowery or showy when it comes to expressing love, you show your love by your availability, rendering services, doing practical things for a loved one, and other thoughtful “little” things. Many of you are talented at design work, as you appreciate and pay much attention to all of the little parts that make up a whole, with the goal of finding order and harmony in these systems. If you are not careful, you might pass up on true love opportunities in favour of relationships that serve a practical purpose in your life, or out of fear that you might not find better. Selling yourself short may be something that keeps you from going after what and who you want.
Venus in 7th House
You live for relationships. It is hard for you to think about being alone. Harmony is most important to you, so it is unlikely you will attempt to dominate a lover. You are a peacemaker, sometimes going to great lengths to achieve a balanced, harmonious relationship. Be careful not to bend over backwards just to keep the peace–you may be taken advantage of. Your marriage partner may be especially attractive, charming, or well off. You are extremely attractive, agreeable, and charming, drawing others to you magnetically. You need an unusual amount of contact and exchange with a partner, and might find that you feel completely lost without one. Some of you might quickly enter into partnerships, perhaps too quickly and neither equipped nor prepared for the responsibilities that a long-term relationship demands. In some cases, there can be a shallow or materialistic interest in partners. Your hips and lower back may be special erogenous zones for you, or they may be especially attractive body parts.
Venus in 8th House
Intensity is what you seek in your love relationships, so that casual encounters are not necessarily your game. You are easily bored with mechanical interactions between partners, and might prefer drama in your relationships to anything mundane or superficial. However, you also fear being vulnerable in love, and, in youth, you may control your emotions in love. Fears of being betrayed may be at the heart of your somewhat jealous and possessive nature in love. When you give yourself over to love, you love wholeheartedly and expect all-consuming, total devotion and attention in return. You find passion a healing force in your life. Your charm runs deep–just below the surface. You are attracted to all that is taboo, hidden, forbidden, and find beauty in the broken, disenchanted, obsessed, and passionate. In some cases, people with this position might make a business out of love, romance, and eroticism. There is an intensity about you that others pick up readily. Either they run or they are completely intrigued!
Venus in 9th House
You are attracted to, or you tend to attract, people of different cultural backgrounds. You are attracted to a partner with a sense of adventure. You are not especially clingy, and you expect a certain amount of freedom in a partnership. You want to feel like you are growing as an individual, and you won’t be happy in a relationship that is restrictive or confining. In fact, you have a great love for the feeling of freedom or limitlessness. Your hips and thighs may be especially attractive! You appreciate a lover who is enthusiastic and not afraid to have a good time (with you!). You aspire to high ideals in love, but some of you might pursue sensations in love rather than true or deep feelings and attachment. Beware of a tendency for dissatisfaction with what you have, as the tendency to think that the “grass is greener” elsewhere can keep you from enjoying or developing what you have.
Venus in 10th House
Others tend to respect you for your charming manner, and you have many admirers, although some of these are admirers from afar, as there is an aura about you that is charming yet strangely (and intriguingly) distant. You have a great need to be recognized or admired for your charm, beauty, or loving manner, but should be careful not to become too wrapped up in what others think of you, as you might come across as phony or superficial. Some people with this position are “married” to their work or to their image. You are good at making contacts and organizing social events.
Venus in 11th House
The friendship level of your relationship needs to be genuine in order for you to sustain romantic interest. You tend to focus on a person’s unique qualities — those traits that make him or her stand out — as the most attractive. Your relationships must possess some kind of unconventional element in order to keep your interest levels high. Calves and ankles are either erogenous zones for you, or parts of your body that are particularly attractive! You may meet lovers through group activities. Although you value friendships and group affiliations highly, you might jump into friendships without considering the responsibilities they might entail.
Venus in 12th House
You are big on romance and you tend to live and breathe your partner once you’re hooked. Not the best at defining your boundaries — where your needs and your partner’s needs separate — you can get hurt in love rather easily. You can also feel used quite readily. You are attracted to people from all walks of life, finding a partner who has an unusual background or quirky personality most attractive. Partners who mistake your compassion for weakness can take advantage of you. Being openly affectionate and trusting often doesn’t seem safe to you. You may feel your love won’t be appreciated or reciprocated. You may get involved in secret love affairs or fall in love with a person who is quite unavailable to you at different points in your life. Love and sacrifice often seem to go hand in hand for you – having to give something up to be with the one you love, or having to relinquish some person or some aspect of an important love relationship. You value a certain amount of self-sacrifice and a giving attitude in a partner, as you embody these traits. You can be quite mysterious to others, even if you don’t mean to be, because your romantic needs are kept hidden. Although you are quite naturally drawn to relationships that are unusual, secret, challenging, and unequal, do take the time to examine why this may be the case. Be certain that you are not, in some way, punishing yourself because you don’t feel worthy of an equal and public relationship. Because Venus represents attraction, and the twelfth house is associated with the feet, your feet may be especially attractive and/or erogenous zones!
Venus aspects describe your relationships (in a general sense) more than you might think. Venus is the general significator for love and relationships in a natal horoscope. Through the different aspects with other points and planets, Venus is “coloured”, shapen and molded — and so is your love life. All planetary aspects from another point or planet to natal Venus have a particular signification for your love life. Below we will delineate all planetary aspects, but only in their purest form. That is to say that we only delineate the planetary principles without the intervention of another (3rd or 4th or…) planet or body. In other words, we only blend TWO planetary principles, modified by the aspects. Let’s take a look.
There is a strong talent for writing poetry, composing lyrics, pleasing verbal expression, and personal charm. Most people born with this placement have artistic ability and a sense of beauty. Ugliness and anything seriously unpleasant can have a very negative and deep lasting effect upon them, quite similar to those who have Mercury/Neptune and Venus/Neptune aspects. This aspect is good for singers, and gives a naturally pleasing voice. Many composers and songwriters have this aspect. They have the ability to communicate things that are unpleasant in a positive manner and are excellent mediators. This aspect makes one social.
All Venus aspects to the Moon make the native rather naive and emotionally fickle. There may be a need to be mothered. In many instances, any aspect between both points results in possessive behavior and the need to touch (except when the Moon squares or inconjuncts Venus that may show reluctancy and even aversion to touch the other). Moon-Venus contact are passive and denote a rather lazy nature.
Both planets can never be more than 78° apart, only building a conjunction, semi-sextile, semi-square, sextile or a Quintile (72°). It brings quite some charm and quite often a beautiful voice too. Venus aspects to Mercury are one of the most diplomatic combinations, detesting harsh arguments and disputes. The native is able to talk you into something (for good or bad). It may be a highly seductive aspect but it’s NOT a sexual aspect at all. Sexual interests are lived in the head rather than experienced physically.
The sextile and trine aspects bring lots of charm (even more than the Mercury-Venus aspects). The native is perfectly able to look after him- or herself, especially when there is a conjunction between both planets. The conjunction is related to passion and very creative (artistic) desires. The square and inconjunct both point to disagreements between men and women and may bring difficulties in the love life and/or marriage. Not all your love needs will be met. It may point to infidelity too (not always from the native, it may also be related to the partner). The square aspect brings turbulent relationships. The expectations regarding the own love life run too high. All Venus aspects to Mars denote the need for a lively and active relationship. You may easily feel bored and need a continuous “push” in your relationships to survive. Otherwise the relationship may become boring, resulting in infidelity or separation/divorce.
All natal Venus aspects to Jupiter, that is between Fortuna minor (Venus) and Fortuna Major (Jupiter), are considered positive. However, with Jupiter there is a possibility to overdo, to exaggerate. Anyway, it’s a highly popular combination that makes the native well-known and popular, whatever the aspect. You easily admire other people AND, above all, your partner.
The square between Venus and Jupiter denotes a separation, eventually that the partner may die first. The native has to learn that each person is responsible for his or her own deeds. All aspects bring (naive) enthusiasm.
Venus and Saturn never blend well, in whatever aspect they are. Saturn is too cold and distant for Venus — who enjoys company. So, even when Venus and Saturn are sextile or trine each other, expect quite some difficulties and especially restrictions in your love life. The sextile and trine aspects (and in a minor way the conjunction) delay love but never deny it. Love only comes later in life (and in some cases very late!). You may be a very hard worker and a very responsible one too. Also, all Venus aspects to Saturn bring disappointing love experiences, leaving you wonder if you will ever find Mr. or Ms. Right. The square and opposition (and sometimes the conjunction too, depending on other aspects) bring bitter love experiences. You may feel or be rejected, feel inadequate. As a result it often happens that you start to build a wall that nobody can pull down anymore. In many instances we have found that, whatever the aspect, with Venus aspects to Saturn, there may be a huge age difference between the partners and/or some severe sacrifices that have to be done. Love hurts when these planets blend together. Also, the native with such an aspect is very willing to sacrifice his or her life for the partner too and will often feel obliged to help the other. Whatever the aspect, both planets together never indicate a flamboyant love union. Instead, it’s one of deep and loyal friendship, responsibility, trust and sincere feelings (especially with the conjunction, sextile or trine). For some, this may seem to be a boring relationship, but actually, it’s about being loyal and faithful too. The inconjunct points to separations, divorce or deaths etc.
The conjunction, square and opposition denote the need to feel totally free, and pull away from an intimate love union. These are separative aspects resulting in separation, divorce or, in a more auspicious way, not seeing each other often. The other Venus aspects to Uranus are freedom-loving too but can handle it in a more charming way. The native cannot stand to be too long with someone else or with the same person. The relationship cools down quickly when the emotional bond grows. There often is love at first sight but also short-lived love experiences. All Venus aspects to Uranus are related to dancing and rhythms — which the natives love. In many ways, both planets together bring something weird or unusual to the relationship: a huge age difference with your lover, a lover from a totally different (social) background or culture, extreme physical differences, etc.
Most Venus aspects to Neptune are more related to artistic and creative characteristics so that love is lived on a more supra-personal higher level. In many instances, the native has it difficult to live in reality and builds dreams resulting in (too) high expectations and disappointments. The native is not too much interested in sex but can live love in a platonic way. Both planets together are about (non-physical) romance. The opposition aspect denotes love that dissolves or that is totally out of reach. The sesquiquadrate is related to lots of love’s sorrow and tearful love experiences. Expect many deceptions in love before meeting Mr. or Ms. Right!
All Venus aspects to Pluto bring indulging intensity in your relationships and love life. In lots of cases jealousy and possessiveness mark the relationship. Love unions may have cobweb-like traits, resulting in unhealthy and devastating entanglements. Both planets blended together may denote a huge fear of rejection, often resulting in clingy and sticky behavior (either from the native or from the partner). You may get easily absorbed by other people and may not be able to let go, denoting that you may be influenced by “the other” (the more so if the aspect is exact). Eating disorders are not uncommon with the exact aspects, often resulting in issues about weight. Also, relationships tend to change over and over from love into hate, hot into (ice-)cold. Any Venus aspect to Pluto creates a guilty feeling towards the love union. The inconjunct often denotes the death of a lover and denotes a severe emotional burden. The opposition is highly forceful and emotionally pushy. The square aspect between both planets is quite ruthless.